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How doomscrolling wreaks havoc on our minds and bodies
TREINA ARONSON TREINA ARONSON

How doomscrolling wreaks havoc on our minds and bodies

The media we consume is designed to capture our attention and nothing captures a human’s mind more than danger. As a form of survival this makes sense. But what about danger that isn’t even near us? Why can’t we turn away? And what happens when we keep scrolling?

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Surviving the holiday party season as an introvert
TREINA ARONSON TREINA ARONSON

Surviving the holiday party season as an introvert

Party season for introverts can prove more of a source of stress than of joy. You may want to participate in the celebrations or feel obligated to join but are filled with a sense of dread over attending. You may not understand why something that seems to be a pleasant experience for others causes such aggravation.

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Increased body awareness- a positive side effect of EMDR
TREINA ARONSON TREINA ARONSON

Increased body awareness- a positive side effect of EMDR

For many of us, our bodies exist solely as a transportation vehicle for our heads. We generally give little thought to our bodies unless it cries out to us in a state of discomfort or illness. Our mind is what captures, and at times, seizes our attention.

This is not by accident. In our Western society we’ve been conditioned to believe there is an invisible line that divides the mind from the body. The mind, we are told, is rational. Everything else is not.

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Embracing Your Dharma When You’re a People Pleaser
TREINA ARONSON TREINA ARONSON

Embracing Your Dharma When You’re a People Pleaser

In its simplest definition, dharma in yoga philosophy means “duty”. Dharma is synonymous with your purpose in life, the thing that gets you up in the morning. It provides life with structure, order, and a sense of responsibility- the things most humans thrive upon.

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Rejecting Projecting: The Hot Potato Strategy
TREINA ARONSON TREINA ARONSON

Rejecting Projecting: The Hot Potato Strategy

Anxiety, anger and other dark emotions can feel too difficult to hold. The natural response to uncomfortable emotions is to try to get rid of them.
When our partner is experiencing painful emotions sometimes they attempt to give their feelings to us. This is often an unconscious action and not one of deliberateness. It can feel very compelling to take on the emotion without even knowing you have accepted this unwelcomed ‘gift’.

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it’s getting hot in here:                                   extreme heat and mental health
TREINA ARONSON TREINA ARONSON

it’s getting hot in here: extreme heat and mental health

I’ve seen it for years. During the pre-Covid days when I held in-person sessions I always kept fans in my office. For some clients an increase in temperature meant an increase in their mental health symptoms. Depression got worse and so did anxiety. Providing a way to cool off was essential to their progress.

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The Introvert Equation: Why small talk can be difficult and what can help
TREINA ARONSON TREINA ARONSON

The Introvert Equation: Why small talk can be difficult and what can help

A common myth surrounding introverts is that they are intrinsically misanthropic. Yes, there are misanthropes who are introverts, but extroverts can also dislike and distrust humanity. This being said, it is understandable why the terms get intertwined. Though introverts typically enjoy deep and meaningful one-on-one conversations, small talk is often the bane of their existence. Because the avoidance of small talk can lead to social withdrawal, it’s easy to draw the conclusion that introverts just don’t like people. Nothing can be further from the truth.

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Mental Health Myths That Everyone Needs To Know About
TREINA ARONSON TREINA ARONSON

Mental Health Myths That Everyone Needs To Know About

Mental health is a topic that many people still don't fully understand. There are misconceptions surrounding mental health that can prevent people from seeking help or understanding those who suffer from mental illness. Let’s debunk some of the most common myths about mental health to raise awareness and understanding about this important topic.

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why the yes dear strategy fails
TREINA ARONSON TREINA ARONSON

why the yes dear strategy fails

Conflict can be painful and difficult. How we feel about and manage conflict is largely formed by the adult caretakers who modeled behavior during our childhoods. If we were fortunate enough to have healthy and mature caretakers, we learned that conflict is a normal part of relationships and presents an opportunity to learn and grow as a couple.

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Negativity bias
TREINA ARONSON TREINA ARONSON

Negativity bias

“I’m not a pessimist. I’m a realist.” Sound familiar? Maybe you’ve said it yourself. For a lot of us optimism doesn’t seem like the real world.

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